Heartbreak is one of life’s proverbial fuckterdlies(made it up). If you don’t believe me, then statistics show that 85% of people will experience a heartbreak in this lifetime.
Told ya!
So no, you’re not special, even if you feel singled out and your little heart has been stomped to the ground. It sucks, I know, I’ve been there, and guess what sort of Kickstarted my healing?
Journaling.
So alongside some extra tips today I bring you 31 heart-wrenching journal prompts to heal from a heartbreak.
Will the pain vanish after you answer all these heartbreak prompts right away? No.
It’s a start, though, and it certainly helped me.
Let’s dig in before you resume crying shall we?
Why should you journal through a heartbreak?
A study conducted on participants who were asked to journal showed that individuals who were experiencing emotional turmoil felt better afterward.
So the real question is why bother writing when you feel like shit? When all you want to do is cover yourself with your comforter, eat crisps and loads of ice cream while crying?
Do all that but spare a few minutes daily to use the 31 prompts I will give you and here’s what you stand to gain;
- Get to understand what you’re really feeling, is it anger? Sadnesses? Relief?A combination of everything?
- Clear your mind of all those tumbling thoughts and what-ifs.
- Start to get rid of the heaviness one sentence at a time.
I can promise a small dosage of relief but what I can’t promise is that you will feel brand new once you’re done using the prompts.
Like everything else healing takes time, which is relative for each one.
So get your journal out, I would advise you to take on the healing prompts at your own pace, whether it’s 31 or 3 days, your body will know.
31-day journal prompts to heal from heartbreak.
Alright will take this step by step thus the various sections from acknowledging your emotions to letting go, again let your body pace you, you can’t force healing, if you do one section now and the next two months later it’s totally cool (just bookmark this post, copy the link, or screenshot the prompts)
Ready? Here you go, and ooh!! It’s okay to cry, release all that energy.
Section A: Acknowledging your feelings.
1. What hurts the most about this heartbreak right now?
2. What emotions am I avoiding feeling and why?
3. What do I wish I could say to them if I had no fear?
4. How has this breakup changed the way I see myself?
5. Which memories still trigger me, and what do they teach me?
6. Which parts of the relationship am I mourning besides the person; the future, the comfort, the story?
7. How can I show compassion to the version of me who loved them so deeply?
Section B: Finding relief and letting go.
8. What am I still holding onto that’s keeping me stuck?
9. What would forgiveness look like for them and for me?
10. If I released the need to be right, what perspective would I gain?
11. What boundaries do I need moving forward to protect my peace?
12. What lessons am I taking with me from this relationship?
13. What does “closure” mean to me, and how can I give it to myself?
14. What would I tell a friend who’s going through what I am?
Section C: Reconnecting & relearning yourself.
15. Who was I before this relationship and what did she love?
16. What new routines or rituals could help me feel grounded again?
17. How do I want to treat my heart moving forward?
18. What qualities make me worthy of love, just as I am?
19. What parts of myself did I lose in that relationship and how can I reclaim them?
20. What do I love about being on my own right now?
21. How can I nurture my feminine energy and feel safe in softness again?
Section D: Healing progress.
22. What does healing look and feel like so far?
23. What small wins have I experienced since the breakup?
24. How has this heartbreak made me stronger or wiser?
25. What new boundaries or standards am I setting for future love?
26. What inspires me to keep going on hard days?
27. What would “peace” mean to me at this stage of my life?
Section E: Ushering in a new chapter.
28. What kind of love do I want to attract next within and without?
29. What new experiences am I ready to say yes to?
30. If I could write a letter to my future self one year from now, what would I say?
31. In which ways small/ big can I start to cultivate self-love.
Extra tips on how to navigate a heartbreak.
Well I am sorry to burst your bubble but this may only be one heartbreak in a series of several so having the right tools helps a little,
In my case I have already experienced two, and who’s to say that there won’t be more(certainly hope not), but here are a few pointers to get by:
1. Feel the emotions, but don’t own them.
What do I mean? Most of us either try to numb the heavy emotions coursing through us after a heartbreak, or own those feelings instead of acknowledging them as something that will pass.
By heavily associating with negative emotions, we tend to hold on longer to sadness or anger because we see ourselves as one with that state.
Emotions are but a projection of your thoughts it will course through you once you’re able to divert your line of thinking.
2. Give yourself grace when you do stupid shit.
No one does things they regret than someone from a fresh breakup, I am not for getting breakup sex … don’t… Been there..very counterproductive.
However, if you find yourself reaching out to your ex for closure and later realizing that it was pointless, I want you to give yourself grace… sometimes you learn the hard way…they can’t give you closure, only you can.
Give yourself a grace period maybe one month, or two after that start getting your shit together.
Speaking of getting it together.
3. Do one small act of self-care each day.
On the first day of your breakup, self-care might look like, not consuming the whole gallon of ice cream on the third and an actual shower, by the 15th, you might actually hit the gym…maybe.
Regardless of what small act you do, I want you to try and put one foot forward…okay? You will not want to but …do it.
4. Write a symbolic letter and burn it.
This is a little post-breakup ritual that I love, where you write a letter addressed to your previous relationship, the good and the bad, then you burn it to signify an end.
You don’t have to do this immediately, but when you’re ready, give it a try.
5. Lastly, break out of your indoor cocoon.
Heartache reduces even the most extroverted person to their couch and bed, so indeed the second step after acknowledging your sulkiness is to go outside.
Meet with friends and family, get out of your own head, even for just 30 minutes, take a walk … I can assure you that you won’t collapse the moment you step out your door “if you ate today.”
Parting short.
Ugh… parting short just makes you feel worse, doesn’t it? Forgive me, how about closing remarks? This was it my lovelies.
I truly do hope that you will be able to use all 31 healing prompts to get through this setback and a few months from now you will read and be so glad that you went through this season ❤️
This was just a chapter,, I promise…till next time, remember to sign up for my newsletter, cause you and me will last for a freaking long time 👇 drop a comment if you wish.
