We are more than flesh and blood, we’re soul and energy, and today I want to remind you of the essence of the light and dark divine feminine energy.
The inner divine feminine energy (light&dark) and masculine energy are archetypal (spiritual) forces of life in each human being that influence how we behave in this world.
However, most people have suppressed these beautiful energies and they are unwhole.
Today I want to remind each woman how to activate light and dark divine feminine energy to live a wholesome existence.
So stick around my lovely for this divine message 😉
Table of Contents
What is the divine feminine energy?
The divine feminine energy is a life force energy that exists in each human being and is often subdivided into two:
- Light divine feminine energy.
- Dark divine feminine energy.
I know that you’re wondering, how do I tell if my light and dark divine feminine energy are active and not lying dormant?
What are the signs?
Characteristics of the light divine feminine energy:
- Love and compassion.
- Receptivity and openness.
- Healing and nurturing.
- Creativity and playfulness.
- Intuition, empathy, kindness.
Characteristics of the dark divine feminine energy:
- Magnetism and mystery.
- Sensuality and erotic power.
- Shadow integration (embracing the parts of yourself you hide).
- Transformation, destruction, rebirth.
- Fierce boundaries, unapologetic truth.
From my point of view, women need both the inner divine feminine and masculine energy; however, we feel more fulfilled when in our feminine energy for most of the time because it’s our natural predisposition.
And aside from encouraging you to awaken your divine feminine energy I feel that it’s very important to mention that your light and dark feminine energy both need to play, both ought to be cultivated, don’t run away with one.
Ready for the fun part?
How to activate your light divine feminine energy in 7 ways.
Most people are familiar with the light feminine energy. This type of woman is perfect in society’s eyes; she’s sweet, nurturing, and loving.
I identify just as much with her because I was conditioned to be her, and this energy has enabled me to form friendships, romantic relationships and even to show up as a mother.
This energy is the life force that holds the world together so how can you fully embrace your light divine feminine energy?
1. Connect to God.
Before you roll your eyes and term this a cliche, connecting to a higher source of power, whether it’s God, Buddha, Allah, or the universe, is one of the ways to step into your light feminine energy.
Why you may ask?
Because you cease to control each outcome in your life.
You step into the awareness that there’s a bigger plot, and a higher being responsible for each one of us.
And come to think of it the whole point of all religions is to feel safe in the knowing that something or someone is watching over us.
Safety=light feminine energy.
2. Create nurturing relationships.
I was watching a certain TikTok creator who said that as women, we are naturally born lover girls, and I couldn’t agree more.
This doesn’t apply only in the context of romantic relationships but also in friendships and family bonds.
Do you know that light and airy feeling we get when we fall in love, that’s you in your light divine feminine energy, or that peaceful feeling you have after hanging out with your girlfriends.
Love sustains our spark, don’t shy away from cementing meaningful relationships.
3. Live softly.
In a rushed patriarchal society, it is your prerogative to learn softness.
And softness doesn’t mean that you have to change yourself it simply means that you have to be intentional with how you do things.
Not everything needs to be rushed you don’t need to be in a state of survival all the time.
Softness looks like:
- Waking up slightly earlier so you can have a slow morning.
- Embracing beauty in all its forms.
- Being present through life.
- Savoring life instead of rushing through tasks.
- Walking a little slower than you would.
4. Become a creative goddess.
Woahh.. don’t panic I didn’t say that you now have to become a Picasso. But girl you need to get off TikTok and do something that sparks your soul.
Your light feminine energy is dying to play and release her creative genius but you’re too stuck in an age of stimulation.
So here’s a challenge for you: Set aside at least 30 minutes each day to do something creative that you like or will come to like.
Whether it’s a pottery class, making graphics, or gardening.
And please allow yourself to completely suck at it, until you don’t, become as multipassionate!
5. Do lots of self-nurturing.
When feminine energy is not replenished through acts of self-nurturing we become drained and resentful.
We don’t want that, so here’s a reminder to fill your cup through: self-care, journaling, self-forgiveness, affirmations, Netflix and chilling, cute outfits and nails, vitamins, exercise, good nutrition, etc.
6. Love yourself unconditionally.
Love yourself with the perfect and imperfect parts, love all the versions you have been because she led you here, you’re learning and evolving every day.
You’re whole.
Love yourself the way you love others, you deserve it.
7. Lastly gratitude and service.
I want you to start practicing gratitude more often because let’s be real we have a tendency to focus on what we want and not what we have.
You have a lot to be grateful for, I can tell by just the mere fact that you’re here reading this.
Service to mankind also lights up and honors the essence of your light divine feminine energy, and it doesn’t need to be an elaborate deed, but something as thoughtful as making warm meals for a mum who just gave birth, etc.
Light divine feminine energy archetypes:
- The mother– she’s nurturing and gives unconditional love.
- The maiden – she’s the picture of playfulness and innocence.
- The goddess of love– she represents beauty and affection.
5 ways to activate your dark divine feminine energy.
I get chills from just talking about the dark divine feminine energy because it’s such a powerful energy and any woman who embodies it is a force to be reckoned with.
However, it makes me sad to see that this energy has been twisted and falsified as manipulative or singularly connoted to be just sensual.
This energy translates into confidence and raw power that helps a woman to move through this world assertively.
So, how can you reignite your dark, divine feminine energy?
1. Become so authentically you.
Easier said than done, especially in younger women. Fortunately, most older women have worked through the hurdle of people pleasing and fitting into a mold.
But for the girl who’s 19, it’s difficult because she hasn’t even formed the picture of who exactly she is, but as she grows older and does her self-discovery, she gains a gift to show up as unapologetically her.
At first, it will feel scary and uncomfortable, but then it will become liberating, and it will encourage other women to embrace their dark feminine energy too.
2. Embrace sensuality.
Sensuality is allowing your five Senses to play and witness the beauty and pleasure that the world has to offer.
Sensuality is a cosmos of living through your five senses touch, see, hear, taste, feel this looks like:
- Wearing soft silks.
- Applying heavenly scents.
- Eating delicious food.
- Enjoying sex because why not?
- Listening to beautiful jazz music.
A woman in her dark feminine energy is not ashamed to seek and feel pleasure, it’s her gift as she moves through the world.
3. Have firm boundaries.
Here’s something I want you to do: “Create a rule book” with boundaries that you don’t allow to be crossed.
To make it first write what boundaries you want to uphold for yourself when interacting with others, second write a few what-if scenarios and what you would do.
“What if the supermarket attendant is rude for no reason?”
“What if a partner crosses a line like cheating on you?”
Think of all your general what-ifs and come up with at least three ways you would handle a breach of your boundaries. Here are my 3 favorites.
- Don’t react, it’s not worth your energy.
- Ask them to repeat what they just said, which makes them feel stupid, and analyze their actions.
- Elegantly call them out on their bs.
And remember that the world is scared of a woman in her dark feminine energy, so they will call you rude or bossy or the nasty b word, but you will not falter, you’re a woman who protects her self-respect and peace of mind.
Isn’t the saying true that we teach people how to treat us?
4. Find your soul’s purpose and live it.
Life is a series of unbecoming all the things we thought we ought to be and sticking with those that make our soul come alive.
Sometimes our purpose shifts, and that’s okay. Your divine dark feminine energy will give you the courage to pursue your dreams.
5. Lastly, Learn to detach and let go.
Embodying your dark feminine energy also looks like detaching and letting go of people and situations that no longer serve you.
It’s recognizing that you can’t carry the weight of the world on your shoulders, girl, you’re only responsible for you and how you react to circumstances, nothing more.
Why do you need both your light and dark feminine energy?
Social media has lately been portraying and advocating for the dark feminine energy, but in the wrong Sense.
Here are three corrections:
- No your dark feminine energy is not for manipulation.
- Second, it doesn’t replace your inner masculine energy (structure).
- Thirdly you don’t need to do away with your light feminine energy.
Yes, you need both your light and dark feminine energy and your inner masculine energy will support this.
Here’s why:
Light feminine energy without dark feminine energy can lead to being overly self-sacrificing, passive, naive, lacking boundaries, shunning pleasure, etc.
Dark feminine energy without light feminine energy can mean: raw power without compassion, manipulative, cruel, or disconnected.
A balance of both could look like: friendly and loving but with firm boundaries.
Service to others but setting aside lots of time to refill your cup.
Bring about balance between your light feminine energy and dark feminine energy.
Alright, now it’s time to bring about coherence to these energies.
1. Journaling for awareness.
The first step to establishing balance between your light and dark divine feminine energy is to be aware of which of the two comes most naturally to you.
For me, it’s easier to be in my feminine energy, and embodying dark feminine energy is something that I had to learn and slowly integrate.
So here are a few journaling prompts to help you:
- Do I embody light or dark feminine energy most of the time?
- Which of these two energies do I need to allow to come out more often?
- Where in my life do I need more softness?
- Where in my life do I need more unapologetic power?
2. Alternate rituals.
It can feel scary and daunting to just wake up and be in your dark feminine energy if all that you’ve ever been is in your light feminine energy or vice versa.
I don’t want to toss you in the waters.
So here’s what you will do, you will perform light feminine energy rituals in the morning and dark feminine energy rituals in the evening.
Or however feels good for you.
So what are these rituals?
- Light feminine energy rituals: start your day with gratitude, connecting to God, slowness, and compassion.
- Dark feminine energy rituals: End your day with shadow work journaling, alone reflective time etc.
3. Switch energies as per circumstances.
My girls who are like me and are always in their light feminine energy have a difficult time in being firm and standing for themselves when need arises.
If you’re naturally in your dark feminine energy I want you to learn how to okay with tapping into your light and playful energy as per the situation.
Both are essential.
Learn to ask yourself “does this situation call for my light or dark feminine energy?
4. Lastly, Cycle Syncing.
I love love talking about cycle syncing for menstruating women.
We have four phases in a a cycle: for most women the follicular and ovulatory phases are their most sunny while in their luteal and menstruating phases they tend to go inwards and be more self-focused.
So here’s how to balance your light and dark feminine energy as per your cycle.
- Follicular/ovulation phases– light feminine energy (radiance, connection, creativity).
- Luteal/menstrual phases– dark feminine (introspection, boundaries, letting go).
With that said…
We’ve come to the end my lovelies and have covered so much ground I certainly hope that you learnt something valuable today.
Go out there or rather inwards and activate your light divine feminine energy and your dark divine feminine energy using the steps I gave you.
Remember to bring balance between both energies.
Before you we part ways I am really curious to know which energy (light or dark) comes naturally to you, what’s your default sassy or sweet? Let me know in the comments section below.
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