There’s a huge misunderstanding when most hear “embracing your sensuality.” It is unfortunately narrowed to sexual intimacy and profanity, especially when a woman is concerned.
Today we will debunk this misconception around sensuality and discuss seven lovely ways that each woman can embrace her sensuality and the undeniable benefits.
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What exactly is sensuality?
The Merriam-Webster dictionary refers to sensuality as “excessive pursuits of fleshly pleasures.” Yikes, for once, I can say that a dictionary is wrong, meaning that society’s perception is wrong.
Luckily google knows that sensuality is living life through our five senses: touch, sight, sound, smell, and taste.
Sensuality is savoring the pleasures of life through the five senses.
Living in a patriarchal society has led many women to forget how to savor life, how to indulge their feminine energy through the small pleasures that are readily available to us, it’s time to come home to ourselves.
The difference between sensuality and sexuality.
As we defined, sensuality is enjoying pleasure through our five senses, and sexuality refers to sexual intimacy, often with another party.
Sexuality is a component of sensuality. However, you must understand that sensuality is broad-based and very personal, and it cannot be narrowed to only sexual pleasure.
Sensuality is a pillar and sexuality is one aspect of this pillar.
Examples of sensuality.
- Slowly savoring a hot cup of chamomile tea.
- Feeling the soft texture of your silk sheets.
- Listening to incredible jazz music.
- Smelling a bouquet of roses you just bought.
- Looking at a picturesque view after hiking up a hill.
- Bonus, pleasuring yourself using your touch.
Why embracing sensuality matters to women.
Ancient civilizations like the Egyptians used to bathe their loyal women in milk, honey, lavender, and scattered petals. Queen Cleopatra was said to hold this ritual in high esteem because of the wonders it did to her skin; however, I also like to think that she did it out of pleasure.
Unlike ancient times, today’s very patriarchal and hustling society has seen most women abandon “pleasure,” and those who don’t are called vain,over-indulgent, and profane.
But what is true feminine energy embodiment without enjoying the pleasures of our five senses? Feminine energy is receptive, flowy, and indeed very indulgent in beauty and pleasure.
Including “sexual pleasure,” which we’re taught to be ashamed of in public but, funny enough, expected to be freaks behind closed doors.
Sensuality is owning your body and, hence, living fully in alignment with yourself.
So, how can embracing your sensuality change your life for the better?
- Deepens self-love and confidence.
- Releases shame or guilt around your body.
- Awakens your creative and feminine energy.
- Improves emotional well-being and lowers stress levels.
- Helps you feel more grounded and present.
7 ways to embrace your sensuality.
We love practical everyday tips when it comes to feminine living, so here are the seven ways you can embrace your sensuality, feel more attuned to your body, and live happily.
1. start by redefining sensuality for yourself.
I grew up in an African household and community, and any topics that were closely tied or even misinterpreted to refer to “sex” were taboo; I didn’t see any woman around me live pleasurably through her God-given senses.
So guess what I did? I learned the hard way that I had to get over the shame and guilt that comes from being a woman who actually dares to enjoy “pleasure” and her life.
Instead of seeing mundane things like sipping my morning tea as a rushed task, I started to slow down and actually enjoy it. I relearnt intimacy with my body step by step, and it got easier to an extent where I can actually say…
“siz you’re missing out if you’re not living life through your five senses,” this is where your ultimate purpose and satisfaction lie not in repression or some Faraway dream of happiness.
So I dare you to redefine sensuality as the things that make you feel confident, radiant, and alive, and don’t look any further than from your daily routines.
2. Reconnect with your body.
So many women have been estranged from their bodies, the very awesome, beautiful, and unique vessels that carry us through life.
We give our bodies so much comparison and criticism, but to embrace sensuality, you must have a healthy connection with your body; you must honor and cherish it; how do you do that?
Tips to reconnect with your body.
- Positive affirmations, i.e., Dear body, you are so lovely, strong, and beautiful.
- Exercise that feels good for your body.
- Sensual movement, such as sensual dance classes or winging it in your room with full-blast music.
- Body gratitude journaling, write three things that you’re grateful for that your body helps you accomplish each day.
- Mirror work, where you look at yourself and affirm the beauty and uniqueness of your body.
3. Engage your five senses every day.
At an age where distractions are optimal, it’s paramount that we choose to engage our senses intentionally.
From the moment that you wake up, I want you to focus on how each interaction interplays with your senses and actually surrender to pleasurable experiences.
Here are some pointers as to how you can engage your senses to embrace sensuality:
- Touch: Wear soft, comfortable fabrics, apply sensual oils, or run your fingers through your hair to feel its texture.
- Sight: let your eyes behold beauty in simple ways such as decorating your home with flowers, sentimental decor, art, and playing dress up for fun.
- Smell: make your space smell good using essential oils or candles, cook or order fragrant meals, and use delicious body scents.
- Sound: pause during the day and listen to the birds chirping or traffic, play high vibe music.
- Taste: Eat slowly, ensuring to savor your food. Can you make out the ingredients?
4. Release any shame and guilt towards sensuality “pleasure.”
We’ve been taught that pleasure is not virtuous, and systems such as religion have been used to try and back up this claim, but that’s not true, and it’s not right.
Pleasure is your birthright; it’s an aspect of the sacred divine feminine energy because she actually gets to love and enjoy her life through feeling pleasure.
Many women need to release the shame and guilt that they feel when confronted with sensuality, especially sexuality. You’re allowed to feel and love various forms of pleasure.
Here are a few steps that can help you to unburden the guilt and shame.
- Begin by questioning the origin of your guilt and shame around sensuality.
- Do lots of journaling around all the times when your sensuality was repressed and how it felt.
- Listen to lots of matriarchal content that encourages women to embrace their sensuality. This could be podcasts or even social creators.
- Surround yourself with women or, as mentioned, content that encourages sensuality in women.
5. practice feminine rituals every day.
Feminine rituals refer to practices that are in tune with feminine energy, which is fluid, creative, receptive, and intuitive, such as slow living and creative expression.
In its essence, feminine energy is very sensual, and this means that feminine rituals encourage each woman to embrace her sensuality.
A few examples of feminine energy practices are as follows:
- Journaling enables you to understand the “senses” at play behind your words.
- Moon rituals allow you to sync the phase of your cycle to tasks at hand and self-care routines.
- Creative expression, such as painting, dancing, and poetry, aligns with your soul and brings you pleasure.
- Carefully curated morning or nighttime routines that involve self-care practices such as skincare and movement.
6. practice sensual self-care.
Self-care has become a pretty standardized term along with its aesthetics, but this is hugely misleading to us. Self-care isn’t just bubble baths but any activity that you create time for that nurtures your mind, spirit, or body.
This means that for one woman, self-care might look like a six-step skincare routine, and for another, it might be a rejuvenating walk around the neighborhood.
With that said, sensuality should be incorporated into each woman’s self-care activities. i.e:
- Wearing lingerie under your work clothes just for you.
- Slow dancing in candlelight.
- Taking the beautiful trail while walking.
- Cooking a delicious meal just for you, use the nice dinner set.
7. Lastly, Embrace sensuality as a lifestyle.
Becoming a sensual woman is not a one-day performance but a lifelong commitment to living a fulfilling life.
You don’t just romanticize your life for one day and become changed, but you must choose to engage your five senses every day through presence. Be present.
Learn the things that feel good in everyday life and do more of them while engaging your senses.
Parting short.
I hope that this post has been able to completely shift how you view sensuality, and henceforth, you shall embrace your sensuality unapologetically.
From the moment you wake up, embrace your sensuality through small practices such as massaging your scalp, walking slowly, and lighting scented candles.
And before we part, let me know in the comments how you embrace your sensuality day to day.
